31-year-old pushes away birthday cake when she whiffs chocolate from it, 29-year-old baker friend leaves in tears despite knowing about friend's allergy: "She claimed to have forgotten about my issues with chocolate"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 28, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. If there was some collective money jar for every person claiming to have a food allergy or intolerance, the world would be rich. These days, food allergies and intolerances seem as common as denim jeans, first dates, and Netflix subscribers. It seems that everyone in the past 15 years of so just woke up one day and picked at random a food that claim they can't eat. I've heard and seen it all – from garlic to gluten, or beef to bananas, allergies to foods are more uniting these days than cultural meal time. It's interesting that if you go to certain other countries, they've never heard of gluten intolerance, or allergies to garlic. Call me crazy, but maybe there's some heresy going on here. 

In the story below, the protagonist is allergic to chocolate. Besides second-hand grieving for her sad life bereft of the wonders of chocolate, she has a birthday and her baker friend bakes her a black forest cake. 

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    AITA for pushing away my homemade birthday cake?

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    I (31F) had my birthday party this past weekend. It was a small group of close friends including "Julie" (29F). Julie loves baking and so as my present, she baked
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  • It seems like a story that really has two sides to it. Maybe you're on the side of the protagonist pushing away a birthday cake that could wind her up in the hospital, or maybe you empathize with the friend who could have easily forgotten about the allergy and meant well. Either way, enjoy the story below. 

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    my birthday cake. The problem is, it was a black forest cake. I have a mild allergy to cocoa powder where even the smell makes me sick and if I ingest any, I will
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    vomit. (I say mild since I've never gone to the doctor for a proper diagnosis, yay American Healthcare system!)
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    Here's where I might be the AH. When she put the cake in front of me, the smell of chocolate hit me. I pushed it away and asked "What the f is this?" while covering
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    my nose from the smell. It's not a secret in my friend group that I don't do chocolate. Whenever we go out for dinner (probably once or twice a month), I always
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    double check for chocolate in a dessert. Julie claimed to have forgotten about my issues with chocolate, but I find it hard to believe. As do a few of my friends that I talked to after the party.
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    Julie ended up leaving in tears shortly after the cake came out and I sent the cake home with another friend. Neither one of us has reached out to the other
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    since. Some of my friends are saying I was the AH for my reaction, but I think it's incredibly r de to bring a cake to someone's birthday party that they can't eat. So AITA?
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    Edit: a lot of people are offended at my language. I do want to clarify that my friends group consists of service industry folks and I myself work in a dive bar.
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    Curse words are our vernacular. I do understand that it doesn't totally justify my response and I will reach out to Julia tomorrow to apologize and thank her for taking the effort to bake it.
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    Due_Register2861 • 22h ago As someone who loves making cakes for others I find it strange she didn't ask for allergies or what flavor you wanted your cake to be.
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    Maybe think whether she has done other weird things in the past. Is she just someone who is completely oblivious? Or she always trying to be the center of attention?
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    I have terrible allergies as well and people have made "errors" like the one Julie did because they think I am lying.
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    ScaryGermanGuy • 21h ago Maybe it's because I don't like chocolate, but a black forest cake is a pretty bold move for someone else's
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    birthday without checking. I wouldn't make a cheesecake for someone without asking if that person likes cheesecake. I know it's
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    polarizing. I love it. I know tons of people who won't touch it. This isn't chocolate frosting or chocolate filling, this is an aggressively chocolate cake that you
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    couldn't pay me to eat or even try. So no, I don't think your TA. Even without the context clues you've provided over the course of
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    your friendship, if I got that cake presented as a gift I'd think "Wow... this person really didn't care whether or not I'd enjoy this."
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    There was probably a better response then "T. IS THIS???" though....
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    punkena ⚫ 18h ago Is there an option for "accidentally an a_h_le"?
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    Yeah, it was ride, but it was a knee-j reaction to something that makes you physically ill.
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